People adopt for a lot of different reasons. Infertility. The desire to make a positive controbution to someone’s life. The belief that they have been called by God. In fact, most peoples’ decision to adopt is a complex combination of several reasons. We’re complex people. It’s ok.
Our adoptions were not simple in their origins. In fact, they got more complicated as time went on. Even so, I remember why we started. In 2005, in front of the US Supreme Court, an abortion rights advocate yelled in our face.
“What will you do if you win? Are you going to take all the babies?“
It was January of that year, and we were at the beginning of an intense, 9 month season in Washington, DC. It seemed back then that talk of abortion and the value of the unborn was everywhere. Lou Engle had rallied 70 young people to do an internship that was centered around praying for the turning of the Supreme Court. Kelsey and I led much of that internship, standing for hours before the court and praying that God would visit the justices…that when the opportunity would arise, they would break our nation’s covenant with death.
At times, we felt our prayers shift the atmosphere around us so distinctly that we wondered if victory was not within reach. I remember listening to the radio one morning to discover Sandra Day O’Connor had suddenly resigned. We all stood in faith as George Bush nominated John Roberts to the bench. We thought surely God was stacking the deck. Ten years later, we are still waiting for the right case, and not entirely sure how Roberts would vote after ten years of surprises.
Tonight, I began to reflect, and aside from Bound4Life and a few other focused ministries, I don’t hear much about abortion anymore, even from the very conservative. I hear about immigration. Bruce Jenner. The misappropriation of the rainbow.
Few have stayed the course to be a voice for the unborn.
It’s understandable, in a sense. There are more pleaseant things to talk about. Adoption is a much more palatable, polite discussion to host than that of abortion. Adoption is difficult not to be supportive of….and it allows people to not think at all about the horror of 3500 babies a day taken from what God designed to be the safest place on earth.
In our country. With our legal system’s protection. God help us.
The discussion of abortion is a touchy one. I remember broaching it at a pastor’s conference that year. Within 30 seconds of closing my message, I was met by a pastor. I hadn’t even left the stage. He’d flown across the country and “didn’t come all this way to hear this message.” That’s an exact quote. I told him if I got an honorarium, I’d be willing to reimburse him for his registration, but deep down, I thought perhaps he did need to come this far to hear this message. He did not leave happy.
Some don’t want to hear the message because it stirs up intense pain. They made choices as young people that haunt them now. Even so, if our God cannot bring comfort in these times, is He a God we need at all? Let’s kneel with them, repent with them, and stand up as new creations, beleiving that what He has forgiven is truly forgiven, but let’s not stuff the issue deep into a hymnal to allow an entire new generation suffer from the same pain ours did.
It would be easier to speak only of adoption, to post photos only of babies in loving homes, and to forget why we got involved in this in the first place. It would also be less than God intended.
We adopted to give a child a home….but we also adopted as a prophetic statement that children are wanted, and to be pro life is to be pro child. We adopted because some in our country would tear children from the womb, or turn their back as others do, and we say that is wrong. We adopted as a statement to what we knew was true – and still believe – about the value of life.
I’m praying for a church that speaks up again, because if our nation continues it’s stiff necked attack on the unborn, the Lord will be forced to break us rather than bend us.
Freed slave and well known abolitionist Fredreick Douglass wrote:
“The best friend of a nation is he who most faithfully rebukes her for her sins – and her worst enemy, who, under the specious and popular garb of patriotism seeks to excuse, palliate and defend them.” Frederick Douglass, Life & Writings, p. 144
I aim to be a friend to this nation, and a friend of God. I will not be silent.